Sometimes in our lives things come unexpectedly. The truth is that these unexpected things are truly only unknown consciously. We are constantly attracting things, both good and bad, into our lives. All of them allow for learning experiences.

For example, I know of someone, we’ll call him Biff (like getting hit over the head for example) who is one of the nicest people you have ever met. He has had so many great things in his life. Biff has a great personal life with great relationships. He has hit a rut whereas nothing that he puts forth comes to fruition as he would choose.

Biff made some choices that he believed would serve him by being involved in a relationship (which can be business, personal or intimate) that he believed would serve him. He moved to be in closer proximity to this relationship and it turned sour in a very short period of time despite his efforts to make the relationship work.

The other person made promise after promise, and was very convincing I have to admit, but there was not any follow-through by this other party, who constantly repels people and opportunities. Have you ever known someone like this? These actions of this other person threw Biff into a tailspin because their choices had become linked and it was a challenge to recover. You must never listen to what one says, ALWAYS WATCH WHAT THEY DO!

In fact, Biff just wanted out badly (to the elation of friends) which led Biff to major efforts to make the break. In fact, by being so good natured and trusting of others Biff started the relationship and the polarity of the other individual “rubbed off” to create a myriad of challenges during the separation. This “charge” is the Law of Vibration which enacted the Law of Attraction. Maybe they were similar in the first place to be attracted to each other.  Negative things continued to be attracted into Biff’s life because of this phenomenon of the Law of Vibration and the Law of Attraction.  Now it is up to Biff to continue this course or to shed the past and move forward.

What Biff needs to do is to figure out what he was doing to attract this into his life? Once you discover the pattern, you can change it and change the course of your current and future events.

The point in all of this is to say that all you can do is to make the best choices that you can and stay focused on that which is important to you. You will learn from experience (which is why having a coach is so important). Choices come from you, the emotional being that you are, and you must constantly work on being the best you that you can be. This involves growth. Stay focused on your outcome and stay focused on your path. Great things will come in their appropriate time as you practice the laws surrounding the Law of Attraction.

Keep doing what you know that you should be doing and make your life a masterpiece!


Curve Balls

October 16, 2007

What do you do when things don’t go your way? How do you react? How do you cope?

We all have challenges in life. They seem to come in waves. Usually, they tend to group and show up at the same time. Do you ever wonder why? Our past and current patterns and decisions play into the happenings in our lives more than we know. In fact, we need to know that we are attracting these things into our lives. We are the cause.

We experience some common occurrences and we tend to mislabel them as being bad. Have you ever done that? Have you ever had a bad relationship or a break down in part of your life that you realized later that it was the best thing that could have happened to you? Things always seem a bit different when they are happening to us because we see it through our own eyes, our own filters. We give the situations in our lives meaning. And again, perhaps our greatest tribulations are our greatest blessings, we just need to realize them as such.

Very seriously, our lives would not be much without challenges. Imagine playing golf and every shot started on the edge of the cup whereas a strong breeze could blow the ball in the hole. It would be too easy. Golf would quickly become a boring game. Thankfully, we have the ability to have some variety and challenges in our lives just like in the game of golf, and these challenges make the game worth playing.

One of the most commonly over looked facets of life is that we need to be grateful when challenges come into our lives. This is a simple choice, a decision. To put our lives into perspective to show how trivial these things are in our lives, we need to look at the big picture to realize that one day we will be gone and most of these things that massively challenge us today will not really matter. When we appreciate what we have, the Law of Attraction, because we feel great feelings, brings more great and desired experiences into our lives. We need to be focused on great aspects of those experiences so that we have more phenomenal experiences come into our reality.

Our achievements in life are a means by which we gauge how our life is going. Truthfully, an experience is only for a time. At times, we spend a large amount of time on a particular project because it means something to us, to shortly after its completion have it wrecked, leaving nothing, no trace of its existence. This factor really challenges our way of thinking.

In college, my fraternity built a huge, 35 foot long by 14 foot high by 16 foot wide motorized and mechanically driven float welded to the chassis of a standard school bus every spring for VEISHEA, which was the largest, student-run event in the country at the time. Everything on the float moved and ran on its own accord, with no human action other than the driver and someone to control the electronics. It was beautifully engineered and decorated with great colors depicting a prominent theme. I estimate that we put no fewer than 10,000 man hours into building the float for 13 weeks of school every spring. Within a few hours after the parade for this magnificent float, pieces were being torched off to begin the clean up. Can you imagine the feeling of astonishment when this amazing, piece of artwork was annihilated immediately after its moment of glory? It was a true heartbreak, but it had to be done and great lessons were learned.

Everything happens for a reason, and for a time. It is important to appreciate the things that we have when we have them (and maybe take lots of pictures). Ecclesiastes in the Bible basically says that everything is fleeting. Everything has a purpose and when we have it that time or event should be revered.

Perhaps the things in your life are not quite what you thought they were. If you were to reconsider the experiences that you have had, wouldn’t you still come to the same conclusion – that those things, even though they were not easy, were great because they helped make you the person that you are today? Isn’t the net result of any circumstance best finalized by having you learn and grow. Nothing can ever take that away from you. You are you and that is the key to your life.

In conclusion, even though it may be tough at times, appreciate the moment for what it is worth. It may be the only time that you really have.


October 11, 2007

One of the most interesting topics to which I have ever been exposed is the subject of standards. We are all subjected to their results no matter what standards we hold. Our standards dictate our lives.

Our standards are truly subjective and are relevant in a multitude of segments of our lives. The areas of our lives include health, relationships, career, finances, family, personal development, education, spiritual, emotional, and mental areas of life as well. The list could go on and on.

If we want for our lives to change, specifically if we want new or better results, our standards must change. We must first look to change our standards. Our standards come from our beliefs and our beliefs drive our actions. If you change the core, the beliefs, change which affects our actions. Once these actions change, the impending results will subsequently and inevitably change.

Again, standards affect every area of life. In your personal life, do you wake early? Do you stay up late? How do you manage your time? Do you spend time with your kids and wife every day? Do you workout everyday? Do you eat the foods that you should or do you eat what is available? Do you read for a certain amount of time per day? Do you take time for just you? Do you pray or meditate everyday? Do you do the things in your day that are important to you or are you a marionette that gets pulled in different directions to meet the needs of others? What are your daily personal standards?

The topic of standards in your work life might include how many calls do you make per day, how do you stay organized, how many quotes do you generate, and how many meetings you schedule and attend? Do you do your follow calls at a certain time each day? Do you start your day early? Do you stay late? Do you work to get the task accomplished or do you work only according to a time piece on the wall? Are you proactive or reactionary? Are you meticulous about detail or do you simply do what you can to get by? What standards do you hold in the context of your work?

Frankly, open mindedness to new strategies is vital. This is also a standard. Do you stay open to new technology and strategies that will produce exceptional results? If one is not open to the new possibilities, the opportunity for change and growth is nullified. In today’s economy, whether in one’s personal life or in business, versatility and flexibility are important which all starts in the individual’s mind regarding the standards that they hold.

I encourage every person and every organization to do what it takes to reconsider and reevaluate standards and procedures. Are the things that are done in your life and your business done because of necessity and value or are they done because that is how they have always been done? When you raise your standards the results in your life and business will improve, and profits will soar. Make the decisions that produce the results that you want and deserve.