The Art of Allowing

November 14, 2007

Welcome to your newest day living with the principles of the Law of Attraction. It is very important that you stay steadfast on your course, whatever that course may be. Perhaps in your efforts to create a different level of life for yourself you need to figure out your desired course or alter the present course. Regardless, it is vital to have a plan and continually focus on that plan.

Another important factor of the Law of Attraction is the Art of Allowing. This is an art because no one is perfect and it is a dynamic concept. It is an endeavor that you may never quite master, but you will conquer it in every moment that you practice this principle.

This factor, soley, will have a massive impact. In terms of using the Art of Allowing and attracting your dreams or desired outcome, this concept is imperative. You will never attract great things into your life if you are constantly focused on others, their actions, and more specifically what they are doing wrong.

For one, if you are focused on others inappropriately, you are not focused on yourself and what you need to be doing. If you are constantly critiquing or standing in judgement of someone else and what they are doing, this is destructive. You don’t have to live their life. You do not have to make their choices. Stick to focusing on your life and things will turn out much better for you.  This is a crucial part of the art of allowing.

In the course of your life you may want to help out and educate less fortunate people than you, and help you may. The real question is what are you doing and why are you doing it. If you are doing it to prove yourself right or to prove them wrong, this is for selfish reasons and it is fool hearted. It is, simply, done to stroke your own, needy ego. If you truly want to help people, perhaps it is a good idea to ask them if they would be willing to consider a different perspective or a new idea, and then politely and gently inform them of your perspective only after you have received permission because only then will they truly be open minded and willing to listen.

Here are a few questions for you to consider. Are you allowing others to be who they are? Do you allow them to do what they need to do? Do your words and actions allow them to live the life that they want to live? How do you come across to others? Are you controlling, domineering, and possessive? Does it have to be “your way or the highway?” Are you willing to compromise? Are you a “go along, get along” sort of person? Do you want, show, and express to others that you truly want the best for them? Do you show respect and reverance for others?  Do you express love towards others?

What are your expectations of other people? Do you have unfair expectations of an individual or a certain group? What ideas, beliefs, and opinions do you project onto them? What do you unconsciously expect them to do? Who do you unconsciously expect them to be? How do you react when they are not the person that you want for them to be or when they do not do the things that you think that they should do?

Lastly, the most important concept here is that you allow things to be (which means never pushing back against something because you will give that thing life). When you look at someone or something being not the way you want it, you are not only stealing their energy when you stand in opposition, you are also manifesting into your world that which you do not want based on what you witness in their world. In other words, you get what you focus on and if you are taking in the bad from someone else, you are poisoning your own world, which sabatoge’s your dreams at the same time.

In closing, everyone wants something more and it is alright to allow them to go get it. This is a part of the human experience.  In fact, it benefits everyone if you simply allow things to be. Focus on what you want and allow others to focus on what they want. Learn this critical point, the Art of Allowing, and your life will blossom. Only then will you really best use the Law of Attraction and only then will you truly enhance the world as you desire!


Open Up To A New Choice!

November 6, 2007

What is a choice? A choice is a decision. What is a decision? A decision is the result of a situation, a variable which is then processed through our filters, which includes our beliefs.

Perhaps the question can then be asked – what is a belief? A belief is a feeling of absolute certainty. So you may ask, “what’s the point?”

The point is that our lives are made up of choices which stem from our feelings and our emotions. Our emotions guide our lives. Many times emotions seem difficult to comprehend and to understand because we live in our own bodies and our own worlds with our emotions. We are too close to the situation.

Primarily, we have 20/20 vision when we are the third party. This is very important because we are not attached to the situation, nor the outcome; our filters are not manipulating the situation. Our feelings drive our lives. In fact they are the fuel to create or not create anything.

Emotions cause us to lose weight, to get a new job, to start a new business, and to fall in love. These feelings are the reason for wars, for overeating, for politics and political debates. Everything stems from our emotions.

How has your life been so far to this point? What in your life needs to change? What are you doing to produce the necessary results?

Our emotions are the primary reason why we attract certain things into our lives or whether we repel them. Maybe it is a feeling of excitement, of peace, of joy, of happiness that determines whether you engage in a certain activity. Perhaps it is a feeling of certainty, significance, intelligence, or comfort that drives you.

Are you getting the results that you want? If so, great! What can you do to get better results or to increase them? If you are not getting the results, the answer is simple, something needs to change.  What do you need to change?

What do you do when you don’t know how to change? To whom do you turn? I would encourage you to consider an expert in this particular area of your life. Perhaps a skilled trainer or coach would be the best resource.

Your life is easy to change. It is you who may not be as willing. Again, this comes down to your emotions. Once your have your emotions the way that you want (by getting rid of the things that hold you back including fears, lingering attachments to significant emotional events, limiting beliefs, and limiting decisions) you can begin to arrange your emotions in the way that you ought to have them in order to attract your ideal life.

How do you change your emotions you may ask? Great question. There are many ways, some are quick and easy, some are not. The choice is yours. I encourage you to take notice of the wonderful things that come into your life and be willing to take advantage of the opportunities when they arise. (***Hint, hint, wink, wink***)

Live for the moment and prepare for the future!

Discover Your Destiny!

November 1, 2007

Have you ever wondered what you would do with your life if you could? What if you could choose? What would you ideally design your life to be about?

For most of my life I was focused on just doing what I had to do. I did my best to have fun at times, but until the middle of college I had no idea what I wanted my life to be about. Even at that time I wasn’t completely sure, but I still was able to gain some direction.

It was the start of my sophomore year of college. I went back to school early to help clean up my fraternity house at Iowa State University. We spent two weeks cleaning during the day and partying at night. Did you ever see the movie Tommy Boy? That was pretty close to the story of my life, quite honestly. In fact, I used to look like Chris Farley, but that is a story for a different time.

At my school it was customary to party all of the nights before school until the big party the first night of class called “AA” which stood for Alcoholics Anonymous… Not really, it was the “Attitude Adjustment” party! How appropriate, right? Mass chaos was enjoyed by all!

The truth is that during all of this partying I apparently killed my immune system and I got “mononucleosis” the first week of school. I had the worst case 4 doctors had ever seen. I was so bad… well, we won’t get into the details, but it is a shocker that I didn’t go to hospital. I lost 25 pounds in two weeks amongst other challenges. My Dad came to pick me up from school the first day I could walk and, needless to say, I eventually dropped out of school.

All of this to say that I had the opportunity that semester to work. I started to learn about business, and I liked it! I had never really wanted to go into business, mostly because the only impression I ever had of business, most likely from cartoons and kid’s shows growing up, is that business is about a grumpy old man sitting behind a desk barking orders. I REALLY thought this!! During this semester off, I worked at a retail store that was quite fun and my perspective started to change. Now, I realized that business could be extremely fun! At that point in my life things started to shift.

Through all of my changes, after I graduated from school, I started to grow and attend seminars. I started to learn that there is a whole different world of learning if we are open to the possibilities. My future rapidly unfolded and I discovered new directions that I chose to go in my life.

It wasn’t always clear which direction to go, but I did know what I liked and what excited me. My passions became fairly obvious. I have always loved learning and growing (with the exception of college because it seemed purposeless and without excitement). I did enjoy becoming a better person. Learning became fun! Consequently, I chose to make learning, personal growth and contribution the cornerstones of my life.

Eventually through the circles that I had attracted, I had the opportunity to work with the world’s best peak performance expert, Tony Robbins. By my involvement I was able to meet and to get to know some of his top trainers. I learned quite a bit by being involved with his organization over those 5 years which propelled me to new levels in my life.

This reminds me of a wonderful movie.  In the movie Mr. Holland’s Opus, Mr. Holland is a music teacher who wants to become great by writing his musical masterpiece; his opus. In the course of life, he becomes distracted, stays with teaching, and he has a profound effect on many student’s lives. In fact, he ends up retiring from the school with outstanding accolades. I don’t want to ruin the movie, here is the moral of the story; many times you may not get what you want, but rather you get what you need – which is your destiny.

Just like in the movie, our lives take turns that we do not always understand. At times our predicaments seem to thwart our current efforts. We may get bitter or disappointed because of what is happening right now. Remember, to quote the Bible, “this too shall pass.” Sometimes these changes are necessary to get you to go the direction that you are supposed to go.   Realistically, challenges are not necessarily fun, but necessary to unveil the life that is truly in your best interest.

Why have some of the things in your life not worked the way that you wanted? Where has your past been taking you? Where might you need to go? These answers are the constructs of your ultimate path. I trust that you will take a minute to ponder life-focused questions.

I truly hope that you continue to attract great things into your life and perhaps one day you will be blessed with the realization of your true destiny!

Remember to enjoy life and smile today!