How Do I Make My Resolutions Realistic?

January 9, 2008

Most individuals set goals at the stroke of midnight and never check in to see how they’re doing until the stroke of midnight the following year. This sets up a cycle of feeling like a failure, being disappointed with ourselves, and eventually, our minds, our friends and the universe at large begins to disregard our words because all of them realize (ourselves included) that there is no integrity and no power in them.

The greatest promise you’ll ever keep is a promise to yourself…

…Because it’s your own personal test of integrity (similar to integrated). When we’re out of integrity, we’re fragmented and lack harmony in our life physically, mentally and physically. We’re not whole.

The answer resides in the problem itself. We have a tendency to overestimate what we can do in a year and underestimate what we can do in a decade. Therefore, I encourage all to set what I call “teetering edge” goals and intentions.

“Push the edge,” but don’t “go over the edge.”

In other words, intentions on the teetering edge stretch you but aren’t so ridiculous that you know you won’t do them. An intentions that says, “I’ll workout every day,” is over the edge for someone who hasn’t worked out a day all year.

One that says, “I’ll workout three days a week: Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 5 PM,” is teetering, specific, measurable and therefore achievable.

“I’ll make $100K from $40K…” Over the edge. “I’ll make $50K…” Teetering.

“I’ll lose 50 pounds in 3 months…” Timber! “I’ll lose 50 pounds in 17 weeks (3 pounds per week)…” Teetering.

When we create intentions that are achievable (albeit not mediocre for the human spirit will not invest itself in mediocrity), then we set ourselves up to feel in integrity with our own hearts and minds. We feel accomplished and successful. Success perpetuates success.

To your continued wealth and happiness,

James Arthur Ray
James Ray International  


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